Anonymous: i had sex for the first time with my boyfriend last night. hes pretty big and it hurt a little but not much. he said he was only semi hard during the whole experience and he didnt end up ejaculating at all during the sex. he was wearing a condom, im on birth control for over a year now as well. im having these weird feelings in my pelvic region its almost as if something is either in there (which there isnt) or twitchy/pressurey? is this normal? should i be concerned?

Hi anon,

Anytime your body feels “weird” or different than normal, it is best to see a health care provider, like a doctor. We aren’t doctors and even if we were, we can’t diagnose you over the internet. Nothing may be wrong, but if aren’t feeling right it’s best to talk to someone about it. You may want to visit a local clinic near you.

You can find a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you here.

I hope this helps.

Anonymous: is the female g-spot as hard to find as people say it is? is it remotely hard to locate?

Hi anon,

The G-spot is a spot inside of the vagina that may feel good to be touched for some people. It is located in the front of the vagina and is about two inches up from the opening. It can be identified by the uneven texture of the tissue. You can find out more about its location here. It is fairly easy to locate if someone knows what to look or feel for, but not everyone likes to have their G-spot stimulated, and for some people it doesn’t feel as good as other kinds of touch or stimulation.

I hope this helps.

Anonymous: Im 16 and i live in california. if i were to schedule an appointment at planned parenthood to have an abortion, would i need to show them my medical insurance? I'm afraid they will notify my parents or put it on the medical insurance. Is there any other way they could do it without the medical insurance?

Hi anon,

Planned Parenthood allows you to pay out of pocket and not use insurance if that’s what you’d like to do. In California, minors are not required to notify their parents or get their parents permission if they want an abortion.

You can call your local Planned Parenthood to see how much an abortion will cost, it is usually several hundred dollars. They may have financial assistance available if you need it. Find out more about your right to abortion in California here.

I hope this helps.

Anonymous: if you masturbate and then go to the doctor can they tell?

Hi anon,

Nope, a doctor cannot tell by looking at you or looking at a person’s genitals whether they have masturbated. They also cannot tell if you’ve ever had sex or engaged in sexual behaviors with a partner.

I hope this helps!

Anonymous: Hi I recently took a ept pregnancy test. The control window was a dark blue color. But the test showed a very faint negative. (It was a -/+ test not the line ones). Since it was so faint could that mean something? Like the test was defective?

Hi anon,

You might want to call the help line for ept and they may be able to tell you if that test was defective or expired.

In the meantime, since you didn’t get a good reading, you may want to take another pregnancy test either at home or in a local clinic. You can find a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you here.

I hope this helps.

Anonymous: is it normal for a girl to cramp in her butt area after she orgasms?

Hi anon,

When someone is about to have an orgasm their body tenses up and the muscle get stiff, like when you flex. This can sometimes lead to a cramp. It can happen in the foot, the leg or the butt. It’s normal for this to happen occasionally especially during times when your muscles are tense. This can happen during an orgasm or during exercise for instance.

However, if this happens all the time you may want to see a doctor or health care provider. Cramping in muscles is mostly normal but it can be a sign of a vitamin or mineral deficiency or other health issues so seeing a medical professional can’t hurt.

I hope this helps!

Anonymous: Also just to add the flow was light- medium. That's why I'm debating if I should take the test or not. I heard of ppl being pregnant nd having a period but isn't it more like spotting nd not an actual period? (2/2)

Hi anon,

It looks like we only have the second half of this message not 1/2. So I can’t answer it completely, but I can say that having a period means someone is not pregnant. Someone cannot have their period and be pregnant. Some people may spot during pregnancy, but that is actually usually a sign that someone may have a miscarriage or lose the pregnancy. It’s not something that happens a lot.

If you are concerned about being pregnant, you can take a pregnancy test to find out for sure if you are pregnant. You can either take one at home or in a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you. Find a clinic here.

I hope this helps.

Anonymous: I took my last placebo pill today, but I can't get my new pack of birth control pills until Sunday (6 days away). I am aware it will increase chance of pregnancy, but me and my boyfriend agreed no sex for at least a month. Will the effect of taking the pills a week late only make my next period come a little later?

Hi anon,

We aren’t doctors at Sex, Etc. so it’s hard for us to say because this really depends on your pill and the combination of hormones in it, as well as other factors like your personal menstrual cycle. You should speak with the health care provider who prescribed your birth control.

You and your partner have decided to practice abstinence for a little while. But, missing a week of pills will increase the risk of pregnancy for a little while, so if you and your partner decide to have vaginal sex, you may want to consider using a back-up method of birth control, such as condoms. Condoms are 98-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs. You can learn how to use a condom here.

I hope this helps.