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October 2, 2014 8:57 am

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Anonymous: do girls being masturbating at an earlier age than guys?

Hi anon,

Different people begin to masturbate at different ages. Some fetuses masturbate in the uterus, small children masturbate and sometimes people don’t masturbate until they are teens or adultsv or they might never masturbate. When someone starts to masturbate has more to do with how they feel about masturbation and whether they enjoy it or not than it does with gender.

I hope this helps.


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8:54 am

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Anonymous: During the last time I had vaginal sex (In my case being "fingered"), I experienced a lot of vaginal flatulence. I know that's completely normal and all, and my partner didn't seem to mind, but It just kinda .. ruined the mood for me lol. Is there anyway to prevent that in the future? It's never happened to me before and it's always been with the same guy so I don't think it was anything he did.

Hi anon,

Vaginal flatulence is when air is pushed in and then out of the vagina, the air coming out can sometimes sound like farting. You’re right it is completely normal and it’s great that your partner realized that bodies sometimes make noises and that’s totally healthy and OK! But, it can take your mind off of what’s happening. There’s no real way to prevent it from happening because sometime air just gets pushed up when fingers or a penis are inserted into the vagina and sometimes it doesn’t. And sometimes the air comes out quietly and sometimes it makes a noise.

I hope this helps.


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8:51 am

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Anonymous: I fear the my 12 year old cousin is getting the same sex talk I did ( don't get in bed with a guy or you'll get pregnant) how can I give her a sex talk that my aunt won't give her? Because most of my cousin are pregnant because they weren't inform.

Hi anon,

It’s great that you want your younger cousin to have more comprehensive information about sex and sexual health. You might want to let your cousin know that you’re there to answer her questions and if you don’t know an answer promise to help her look it up. You might also want to read the Sexetc.org website so you learn more about sexuality and sexual health so you can answer her questions accurately. Then when she’s a teen you can show her the website so she can read more about what she’s interested in. It’s so great that you want to help your cousin be smart and informed, part of that is just letting her know she can come to you with anything!

I hope this helps.


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8:47 am

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Anonymous: hi,I'm a female and I always have wanted to have a really hot sex dream, how could/can I make this happen?

Hi anon,

Dreams aren’t something that people can really control. It’s not really possible to make yourself dream about something. But, having dreams about sex or being aroused during a dream is totally normal and happens for lots of people at one time or another.

I hope this helps.


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8:45 am

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Anonymous: how old r u guys?

Hi anon,

The Sex, Etc. teen editorial staff members who write for our magazine and who write stories and blog posts for the Sexetc.org website are between the ages of 15 and 18. Teens between the ages of 13 and 19 can apply to be a contributor to write for the magazine or website, to be on the editorial staff teens must be a sophomore, junior or senior in high school.

The staff of Answer, which is the national nonprofit that publishes Sex, Etc., is comprised of adult professionals. The staff that runs our social media pages and answers questions in the Forums and on Tumblr are adult professionals from Answer.

I hope this answers your questions!


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October 1, 2014 4:00 pm
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9:09 am

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Anonymous: I'm at 13 ur old girl, is it normal that I am always thinking about sex? ugh I feel like such a perv.😢

Hi anon,

It’s totally normal for people to start thinking about having sex when they reach their teen years. Puberty makes people curious and more aware of their sexual feelings and other people’s sexuality.

You might want to check out this FAQ for some more information.

I hope this helps.


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9:07 am

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Anonymous: I wash my vagina reguarly with water and a wash cloth but it still smells, I have a sensitive nose and no one else can smell it but how do I take care of this?

Hi anon,

Washing the external genitals, the vulva, with a mild soap and water and wash cloth regularly is enough to clean the genitals. The vagina, which is inside of the body, cleans itself. All genitals have a scent and this is completely normal and natural. Your body is supposed to have a scent and this includes the genitals. Sometimes we’re really aware of our scent but other people usually aren’t.

However, if you notice your vaginal scent getting stronger or “fishy,” your discharge is greenish or grayish or you feel itching or soreness, you might have a yeast infection, bacterial infection or other type of problem, such as a sexually transmitted disease (STD). Some of these infections can happen in people who’ve never had sex. If you notice any of the symptoms listed above, see your health care provider. Find a clinic near you here.

I hope this helps.


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September 30, 2014 3:55 pm

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Anonymous: i have no idea of what gender i am, i identify as male and/or female depending on the situation, what i am talking about and who i am with but sometimes i feel i dont fit in any of those two, i wish i could act more like my biological gender but it only happens in certain situations and with certain people, is there a name for this? thank you

Hi anon,

Some people who feel similarly to what you describe might identify as genderqueer or gender fluid or as another identity. Gender identity—how one feels as a man, woman, a combination or neither—is as unique as people. So you might choose a totally different word to identify your gender and that’s OK, too.

You might find this story written by a teen who identifies as genderqueer useful.

I hope this helps.


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2:47 pm

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Anonymous: Are queefs normal during a period? Is that even what I would call it? I've only noticed this happening the last couple of months, and it's not throughout the week, only once or twice and it passes quickly. It doesn't bother me much since it normally happens after I wake up and start walking, so nobody is around to notice. But I'm just curious if that's something I should pay more attention to.

Hi anon,

"Queef" is a slang term for air being pushed out of the vagina. It can sometimes make a sound like farting. The technical term is vaginal flatulence. The difference though from a vaginal fart and the other kind is it isn’t gas, it’s just air. Air can sometimes get pushed into the vagina during sex or while putting in a tampon or while sleeping the vaginal muscles might relax and air gets in, then it has to come out. The air might get pushed out while urinating, during or right after vaginal sex, while removing a tampon or as you begin to walk around upon waking. It happens at different times for different reasons and is completely normal and healthy. There’s no real need to pay attention to this or to be concerned about it, it’s just something the body does!

I hope this helps.


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8:59 am

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Anonymous: Guys, hormonal disorders in girls (like pcos) can affect sexuality and gender identity?

Hi anon,

Gender identity is a person’s inner feelings and understanding about being a man, a woman, neither or a combination. I think when you say sexuality you might mean sexual orientation—a lot of people use the terms interchangeably. Sexuality is a broad term that refers to far more than sexual behaviors and body parts. It also refers to how people feel about themselves and being with others, how they see their gender and sexual identities, and how they interact with other people. Sexual orientation is who a person is emotionally, erotically and romantically attracted to.

Polycystic  ovary syndrome is a collection of symptoms that can include cysts on the ovaries, irregular ovulation, a hormone imbalance which can result in acne, weight gain, darker hair on the face, among other symptoms. However, while PCOS can affect a person’s health, menstrual cycle or ability to get pregnant as well as perhaps, their body or self image (as with any syndrome, disorder or illness) it does not affect a person’s gender identity or sexual orientation.

I hope this helps.


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