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October 20, 2014 12:06 pm

What do you wish you knew more about sex or sexual health growing up?

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I work for Sex, Etc., a sexuality education magazine written by teens, for teens and I need some quotes for a story I’m writing. The story is called #TellMeMore and is about what teens wish they had been told about sex, sexuality or sexual health. If you want to contribute, I’ll need your name, age and state. If you want to be anonymous, we can do that but we still need your age and location. I’ll also message you for your email if you want to be quoted. You must be between the ages of 13 and 19 to be quoted.

Question: What do you wish a parent, guardian or other trusted adult had told you about sex, sexuality or sexual health before you experienced it?

Example of a good answer: “I wish I knew that it was normal for nipples to get hard. I made my mom take me to the doctor because I was too embarrassed to tell her. Little did I know it was normal.” Or, “I wish I knew about menstruation before I got my period. [I got it] at a really young age and I was scared and had no idea what was going on.”


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Anonymous: My bf & I were fooling around & we ended up having sex for the first time. He was only in for about a minute bc we didn't have a condom. He didn't precum or cum until about 5min later when I gave him a hand job. Is there still a chance I'm pregnant?

Hi anon,

Pregnancy is possible if there was any sperm in your partner’s urethra that could have been deposited during penetration, though it is not likely. A pregnancy can occur any time sperm are deposited inside of the vagina or on the vaginal opening. There may have been pre-ejaculate present but you didn’t notice it. In some males their pre-ejaculate contains sperm in other it does not. If you are concerned about pregnancy and it has been less than 120 hours since this situation you can take emergency contraception. Plan B One-Step EC can be purchased over-the-counter at a local pharmacy or at a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you.

While pregnancy isn’t likely, there is a high risk for the transmission of STDs. You and your partner may want to visit the clinic to get tested together.

You and your partner might also want to discuss how to prevent a situation like this in the future. You two might want to talk about birth control or safer sex, maybe you two would want to purchase some condoms and learn to use them together. Condoms are 98-percent effective at preventing pregnancy with perfect use and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs.

I hope this helps.


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Anonymous: my boob hurts pretty badly, my period is suppose to come in a few days, what can I do to ease the pain?

Hi anon,

Breast tenderness or soreness are normal to experience before or during a period. A warm bath or shower or warm compresses can help ease discomfort. You might also talk to a health care provider if you regularly experience a lot of discomfort before your period. Sometimes hormonal birth control can ease symptoms related to menstruation.

I hope this helps.


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Anonymous: hello! Yesterday, I touched my bf's tip with my thumb and it has precum (it's not that much) but I wiped it afterwards, then a few minutes later i touched myself with my middle finger this has been giving me anxiety last night and I have irregular period.. do I get pregnant from this? I know it sound stupid but I don't have anyone else to ask about this.

Hi anon,

There is no risk for pregnancy in this situation. A pregnancy can only occur if sperm are deposited inside of the vagina or onto the vaginal opening. Some males have sperm in their pre-ejaculate others do not, but even if there were sperm present they could not live on your hands. Sperm in pre-ejaculate could cause a pregnancy though it’s unlikely. And, once any fluids surrounding the sperm dry up, are wiped off and absorbed the sperm die.

I hope this helps.


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9:16 am

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Anonymous: where do u get duching? how do u duch? I'm 13 and just comfused on how girls duch?

Hi anon,

Douches are water and/or products that are pushed into the vagina. They are usually sold in pharmacies. However, douching is not recommended. Vaginas clean themselves and douching can actually lead to infections and be bad for vaginal health.

I hope this helps.


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cheese-is-evil: I'm so mad. When I was 12 I got the HPV injections (3 over 6 months). We were told about it and given pamphlets. You know what they told us? That HPV is cervical cancer. I only recently found out that it's a fucking STI. You can't hide that shit from girls. Plus, alot of the mothers would've known what it was and alot of girl's parents wouldn't let them get the injections. What if they didn't let their daughter get them because they thought it would encourage sexual activity or something? Ugh D:

Hi cheese-is-evil,

It sounds like the information you got might have been a little confusing. It can be hard to understand complex or nuanced medical concepts as a young person and if trusted adults don’t make sure that you can understand something like a pamphlet or the pamphlet isn’t clear that can cause misunderstanding. It’s understandable that you are frustrated, especially if the part that HPV can be sexually transmitted was hidden from you. Everyone should have access to clear information so they can make the right decisions for themselves about their health, including their sexual health.

Just to clear some information up, human papillomavirus (HPV) has many different strains. Some strains of HPV are sexually transmitted either through sexual fluids or through genital skin-to-skin contact. And of the strains that can be sexually transmitted some can cause cervical, anal or penile cancer and some can cause genital warts. The HPV vaccine can prevent someone from contracting  four strains of HPV. Of those four strains are two of the most common causes of cervical cancer and the other two cause most cases of genital warts. So, HPV isn’t cervical cancer but some strains of HPV can cause cervical cancer.

Some people are opposed to letting their child get the HPV vaccine because they think it will encourage them to have lots of unprotected sex. But, that’s actually been proven false, someone is no more likely to have sex after getting the HPV vaccine than they were before getting it.

I hope this helps.


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October 18, 2014 2:35 pm
Hey, I need quotes for an article at work.

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Okay so I work for this magazine called Sex, Etc. (oh hey follow them on here look it’s a link to their blog) and I’m writing an article on female masturbation and how lots of girls are shamed for talking about masturbation and so on. So I need help with quotes for my article. You can either…

Wanna be featured in an upcoming story? Our teen writer disappear-withmehere wants to hear what other teens think about female masturbation. Please check out the questions and leave a comment!

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October 17, 2014 4:01 pm
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Anonymous: Hi! I was wondering if you had any advice. I am a girl and I feel like my vagina is weird. like, the "lips" or whatever they're called are a little saggy. is it weird? also, I want to get it waxed and I don't know if I should leave a little hair, or wax it completely hairless. I'm also scared to go get waxed because I feel like my vagina is weird, as I mentioned earlier. any advice?

Hi anon,

The part of the vulva you are referring to are called the labia—they are also sometimes called the lips. There are the inner labia and the outer labia. They can be long or short or somewhere in between. Labia—and vulvas!—can be all sorts of different colors and shapes and sizes. Vulvas are different and unique and special to the person, no two are the same. So, your vulva and labia are not weird at all! In fact it sounds perfectly normal and healthy.

If you want to wax your pubic hair that is your choice and how much or little you choose to take off is completely up to you. The person who would wax your pubic hair, like a gynecologist, has probably seen lots of different vulvas and would not think your labia are weird—because they aren’t! The professional who will wax your pubic hair has probably seen labia like yours before and seen labia that is quite different. They know how different and awesome and beautiful genitals can be!

I hope this helps.


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Anonymous: Is it true that you can have periods after implantation of ther egg and sperm? I've heard that after you become impregnated girls can have up to three or four periods before a missed period

Hi anon,

This isn’t true. Someone cannot be pregnant and have a period at the same time. After an egg is fertilized by a sperm and it implants in the lining of the uterus, it begins to grow. This is when someone is medically pregnant. A period is the shedding of the lining of the uterus. A person does not menstruate—or have their period—when they are pregnant because then the pregnancy would be shed and they would not longer be pregnant. Sometimes, the lining of the uterus does shed after pregnancy though. It is a sign however that something could be wrong with the pregnancy and may lead to a miscarriage. If someone is pregnant and begins to have vaginal bleeding they should seek medical care as soon as possible.

So, if someone has their period that is a good sign they are not pregnant. If someone misses or skips their period that could be a sign that they are pregnant.

I hope this helps.


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Anonymous: Hi mine is similar to the person with the skipped period only Its been about ten weeks and I have cramps but there isn't any blood.

Hi anon,

If you are concerned you may be pregnant, the only way to find out for sure is to take a pregnancy test. The most accurate time to take one is if your period is late or skipped. You can take one at home or in a local clinic. Find a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you.

I hope this helps.


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October 16, 2014 3:00 pm

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