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camrynsmith1357: Are there any age restrictions on birth control? Does it have harmful affects on my body?

Hi ,

Different states in the U.S. have different laws about minors accessing birth control. You can learn about your state’s laws. However, a Supreme Court ruling gives minors the right to obtain contraception. If you want to access contraception but aren’t sure you’ll be able to because of your state’s laws you can visit a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic who should be able to help you obtain birth control.

Hormonal birth control is safe and effective. It won’t prevent you from being able to get pregnant in the future and can be used for as long as you’d like. As with any medication though there may be side effects but finding the right method can usually mean there are few if any side effects.

There are other forms of birth control which anyone of any age can access, such as condoms. Condoms are great because they not only prevent pregnancy, but they can prevent the transmission of STDs as well. Hormonal birth control doesn’t protect against STDs.Some people are allergic to latex condoms, but there are nitrile and lambskin condoms which people with latex allergies can use. So, in general birth control and safer sex methods are safe.

I hope this helps.


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Anonymous: My boyfriend has never had any sexual experiences before we started dating and has no history of HIV or any STIs in his family. Do I have any reason to be scared for oral sex?

Hi anon,

STDs can spread through oral, vaginal and anal sex and genital skin-to-skin contact. For example, some STDs like herpes and HPV can be passed through certain types of sexual skin-to-skin touching like when you rub bodies with no clothes on. There is very little risk for STDs if neither of you has had any sexual experience at all.

But, the only way to know for sure if someone has an STD is to get tested. You and your partner may want to visit a local clinic together and get tested for STDs.

Even if neither of you has an STD, it’s still a good idea to get in the habit of using condoms each and dental dams when engaging in oral sex.

I hope this helps.


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10:08 am

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Anonymous: Hi! I am on the pill (16 yrs old, no kids) and am having really bad side effects so I'm going off for a couple months to kind of center myself again and in the meantime I'm going to figure out what I want next for bc. I don't want hormones in my...

Hi anon,

Different people react differently to birth control. The pill, or the specific pill you are on, might not be right or you and that is OK. You also mention not wanting to be on hormones. That’s a totally valid choice and there are lots of ways to prevent pregnancy without using hormonal birth control.

One method that is long-lasting, non-hormonal and is now recommended for teens is the copper IUD. All IUDs are now recommended for teens but the two other brands (Skyla and Mirena) have hormones. The copper IUD prevents pregnancy without hormones and can last up to 10 years. It’s an option you might want to consider.

You can also check out options like the male condom, the female—or receptive—condom, the sponge or a cervical cap. Learn more about all different kinds of birth control.

I hope this helps.


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Anonymous: i feel like i get vaginal discharge (the white gooey stuff) very often and it does have a smell ,somewhat like pee. it really hampers me from keeping that area clean and fresh. do you have any suggestions?

Hi anon,

Vaginal discharge is completely normal and most people experience every day. Some days there’s less discharge and others there is more. It can be white to clear in color and might be thicker or stringy. There can sometimes be slight odor to discharge. This is all normal.

While it may feel like discharge means your vulva isn’t clean, discharge is actually the vagina’s way of cleaning itself. Discharge helps keep the vagina healthy. Washing the vulva regularly with a mild soap and water can keep the genitals clean though and help prevent infection.

If the discharge is yellow, or clumpy, or there is a strong odor and/or itching and burning then this could be a sign of an STD or a yeast infection. If you think you might have an infection you can visit a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic to be tested and treated.

I hope this helps.


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Anonymous: Hey! I'm going to a music festival in a couple of days-camping, mud,wellies the lot! As excited as I am my period has come early meaning I'll be on for the first few festival days. I did a festival earlier in the summer but I perfectly planned it so I could take norethisterone which was great but because I'm early I can't do that this time. I was wondering if you had any tips to stay hygienic and sanitary and not let the period ruin the festival fun? Thanks!

Hi anon,

What to use for your period while camping really depends on what works for you and your body. You’ll want to use the menstrual products that you like and make sure you have plenty with you since you probably won’t be able to pop by a store to get more if you run out. You might use pads, tampons or a menstrual cup. Learn more about different period products here.

Camping and being outside a lot can mean sweat, and if you’re showering less often because you’re camping outdoors there could be a risk for a yeast infection (this can happen even if someone doesn’t have their period). Wearing cotton underwear, changing underwear if it gets sweaty or wet, not wearing a bathing suit for long periods of time and making sure to wash the vulva (the genitals outside of the body, not the vagina, which cleans itself) with water and a mild soap or even baby wipes since you’ll be camping are good ways to keep a yeast infection from happening.

I hope this helps!


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Anonymous: I am female and I haven't been turned on in a really long time (like a month) when I used to be at least once a day from my thoughts or just seeing pics on the internet. Do u know why this could be?

Hi anon,

Lots of different things can affect how often or how intensely we feel aroused. Feeling less aroused less often could be due to stress, or a change in sleeping habits, or it could be due to hormones. It’s also normal for people to be more interested in sexual behaviors at some times than at others.

I hope this helps.


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August 28, 2014 2:50 pm

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Anonymous: ty baes, it's just that i want to start taking the pill but friends and family tell me that i can be infertile from taking it too much and it scared me but i feel better now knowing that, thanks again

Hi anon,

You are welcome! There is a lot of misinformation out there about lots of things related to sexual health. But, you can rest easy knowing that hormonal birth control  does not cause infertility no matter how long you use it.

If you want to learn more about getting on hormonal birth control you might want to visit a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you.


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Anonymous: hey is it true that there are pills that i can use as contraceptive for even 5 years o what's the time limit? thanks everyone

Hi anon,

There are lots of different hormonal methods. All hormonal methods work by preventing ovulation. If there isn’t an egg then any sperm present can’t fertilize it which means it can’t go on to become a pregnancy.

You can take the pill for as many years as you want to, it could be five years, one year or 10 years. There’s no limit on how long you can be on the pill. But you have to take it every day at the same time every day for it to prevent pregnancy most effectively.

The birth control pill comes in packs that have one pill for each day of the month. Each month you get a new pack. (Unless you’re taking a pill like Seasonale or a similar pill which has three months of pills in each pack so you only have a period 4 times a year). Each pill within a pack—no matter what brand or type of birth control pill it is—has enough hormones to last one day. That’s why it’s so important to take the pill every day, at the same time every day. If you forget a pill or miss your time to take it, there’s a chance you could ovulate which means there’s a risk for pregnancy if someone has penile-vaginal sex without another form or safer sex.

Some other hormonal methods can last offer longer period of protection of pregnancy without something to do everyday. Learn more about different birth control and safer sex methods.

With any birth control method once you stop using it—you stop taking the pill everyday, you stop inserting a new ring or getting the shot, or you have your IUD removed—a person can become pregnant again pretty much right away.

I hope this helps.


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innocentdevilposts: This guy i knew wanted to be friends with benefits and I'm not ready for that yet. but he thinks we can just go back to hanging out and its weird. I don't know how to tell him to back off without being mean.

Hi ,

It’s great that you know what you are and aren’t ready for when it comes to relationships and sexual behaviors. You have every right to assert your boundaries with this person.

It sounds like he wants to be friends now and keep hanging out but now that you know he would want to be involved with you sexually you aren’t comfortable with just hanging out and being friends because it feels awkward to you.That’s totally valid and you might just tell him that. It’s not mean to assert your boundaries. You might say something like, “I know you want to be friends still, but for me I feel awkward hanging out just the two of us after learning that you would be interested in being friends with benefits. I just wanted a friendship, I’m not ready to hang out again just yet. I really appreciate you respecting how I’m feeling.” And hopefully, he will respect your boundary.

However, you also say you want to tell him to “back off” which makes it sounds like he may be continuing to express interest in you as more than a friend even after you’ve told him no. That’s not OK. If this is the case, you might want to tell a trusted adult about what’s going on. They can offer you support as you continue to assert your boundaries with this person and can help you if the response to this situation needs to be escalated if he continues to ignore the boundaries you’ve set.

I hope this helps.


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August 27, 2014 4:00 pm
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Anonymous: I want to have sex boys, but in the past a girl fingered me with only 2 fingers and i was in a really terrible pain!! if i cant handle 2 fingers, i definitely wont be able to handle a full penis. is this normal/how can i fix this???

Hi anon,

Some amount of pain and discomfort when first inserting fingers, a penis or  another object into the vagina is normal. The discomfort might be caused by being nervous and so the walls of the vagina tense up, or if your partner’s nails scratch the walls of the vagina that can be painful. Discomfort might also have been related to the hymen stretching or even tearing. The hymen is a thin piece of tissue present in some people that partially covers the vaginal opening. It can break or tear when using a tampon, fingering or during vaginal sex.

Sometimes extra lubrication from a water-based lubricant can help, as can using a lubricated condom, going slowly and making sure that you feel comfortable and relaxed with what is happening. Check out this FAQ for more information.

I hope this helps.


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