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July 30, 2014 4:01 pm
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1:16 pm

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Anonymous: so im 14, lost my virginity yesterday. we had protected rough sex, and i started bleeding. i stopped after a little bit but the next morning i started bleeding again. is this normal ? im starting to get scared. pls, any advice ? explaining..

Hi anon,

Please correct me if I’m wrong, but I believe you are describing vaginal bleeding. Some bleeding the first time a person experiences vaginal penetration (from a penis, fingers or even a tampon) is normal. This can happen if the hymen—which is a thin piece of tissue that partially covers the vaginal opening in some people—tears. Most people experience bleeding similar to light menstrual bleeding or spotting. But it should stop within a few minutes to hours.

You say the sex you had was “rough” if there wasn’t enough lubrication there may have been tears made in the walls of the vagina that are bleeding. Rough anal sex can also cause tears in the lining of the anus, which may need to be checked by a doctor to prevent infection.

The bleeding could be something less serious, or it could be something that may need to be checked out by a doctor. Unfortunately, we can’t tell over the internet. You may want to talk to a trusted adult in your life or call a local clinic and see if they recommend that you come in to be checked out. You can find a local free or low cost and confidential clinic near you here.

I hope this helps.


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July 29, 2014 10:15 am

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Anonymous: I & my boyfriend have attempted to have sex multiple times using a condom. But for some reason he gets soft, were virgins. I let him stick it in raw just for comfort, not sex. Any reasons why this might occur? I kiss him & let him no theres no rush

Hi anon,

A lot of males don’t want to admit it, but not being able to get or keep an erection happens more often than you’d think. They usually have trouble getting or keeping an erection when they’re nervous, scared or worried about something.

He might be worried about how he’ll “perform,” or he could be feeling guilty about having sex. He might be afraid of STDs or pregnancy. Drugs (including some anti-depressants) and alcohol can also prevent someone from getting and/or maintaining an erection.If your partner can keep an erection when he’s alone, then it may be that he’s really not ready for sex right now. You might want to talk to him about these possibilities and see if that’s the case then maybe reevaluate if you two are ready to be having penile-vaginal sex.

Since he’s a teen and therefore young to have this happen, he also might want to get checked by a doctor or clinician to see whether anything physical is going on.

I hope this helps.


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10:09 am

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Anonymous: I had sex with my girlfriend and we used protection. Now it smells like latex in my room. How do we get it out so people don't smell it?

Hi anon,

You may be more sensitive to the smell than someone else might be because you know what it’s from. You can probably dissipate any smell though by opening a window or using air freshener though.

I hope this helps.


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10:08 am

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Anonymous: So I have a friend who I was always kind of close with. And we did some experimenting, which we both agreed to keep confidential. Now I really feel guilty and regret ever doing it. She promised not to tell people, but I'm not sure if I can trust it for some reason and now I'm panicking Please help me!

Hi anon,

It can feel weird or awkward after engaging in sexual behaviors with a friend. You’re regret or anxiety may be a sign that you aren’t ready to be engaging in sexual behaviors. And, that’s OK. You don’t have to feel guilty over expressing your sexuality or trying different sexual behaviors, but it’s understandable that you may regret engaging in these behaviors with a friend. It can be awkward or feel weird to see that friend afterward.

If this person is a good friend and you’ve asked her to keep what happened between the two of you between you two then hopefully she will. You may want to talk to her about how you are feeling though, she may feel similarly and it may help for the two of you to talk about what happened.

I hope this helps.


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10:02 am

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Anonymous: It has been 9 days since I took plan b and today I got what looked like my period and I had the reg period symptoms. It Is 4 days early but can I rule out pregnancy?

Hi anon,

Taking emergency contraception can cause a period to come sooner than expected. Getting a period is a sign that someone is not pregnant. If you are still concerned though you can take a pregnancy test either at home or in a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic.

I hope this helps.


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10:01 am

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Anonymous: the right side of my outer labia (i think) extends about 1 1/2 inches below everything else. is that normal?

Hi anon,

Labia, just like other body parts, come in all different shapes, colors and sizes. Some labia are long and some are short, one side might be longer than another. Sometimes the inner labia are longer than the outer labia, but all of this is normal.

I hope this helps!


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July 25, 2014 4:01 pm
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9:03 am

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Anonymous: Could I get pregnant if there was some pre on the outside of the condom before we used it? I was helping with putting it on him and it had lube inside and out because it was one of the Trojans that was supposed to feel natural for guys so it was slippery and I may have gotten some of the pre on the outside of it and after we did use it.

Hi anon,

Pre-ejaculate contains sperm for some males all the time, in others their pre-ejaculate never contains sperm. Sperm in pre-ejaculate can possibly cause a pregnancy though it is not very likely. Condoms also usually have spermicide on them which would kill any sperm. So the chances of a pregnancy happening from some pre-ejaculate (which may not even contain sperm) getting on the outside of the condom and then proceeding to have penile-vaginal sex is low. There’s always a risk for pregnancy when someone has penile-vaginal sex, but the risk in this case is low since you used a condom. Condoms are 98-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs.

I hope this helps.


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8:59 am

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Anonymous: The plan b anon again. So the bleeding was only after he fingered me, and I put a panty liner so I could check later and after I wiped it, it was pink and after like 30 minutes it looked very watery on the panty liner. Now I'm not bleeding anymore. I'm so scared that it could be plantation bleeding, I don't know what to do.

Hi anon,

As we said, it most likely was not implantation bleeding since it is very rare for implantation bleeding to occur. But what is really common is bleeding or spotting a bit after taking emergency contraception. Even spotting during sexual behaviors before a period is pretty common.

You seem very anxious, you may want to talk to a trusted adult in your life or a health care provider who can counsel you further.

I hope this helps.


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July 24, 2014 11:27 am

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Anonymous: Plan b anon again. So my boyfriend and I had sex on 19th and took plan b 45 min after. Today my bf fingered me and there was blood and to make sure when I wiped there was bright red blood but not when I peed. My period isn't due for 7 days. How can I be sure it's not implantation bleeding. Help I'm so scared Bc I know implantation occurs 6-12 days after unprotected sex and today is day 6.

Hi anon,

Implantation bleeding is rare. It usually does not happen, so chances are what you experienced is not implantation bleeding. However, spotting blood is a common side effect of emergency contraception. For some people who take emergency contraception they spot or their period will come sooner. Sometimes too if fingernails scratch the inside of the vagina there will be some bleeding.

The most accurate time to take a pregnancy test is the day before your period is due or if it is late. You may get your period sooner though because of the emergency contraception. You can either take a test at home or in a local clinic. Unfortunately, there’s nothing else you can do right now to prevent pregnancy and there’s no way to know for sure if you are pregnant or not until you get your period or you can take a pregnancy test at a time when it will be accurate.

You may want to talk to a trusted adult in your life though. You seem to be very stressed out and it can help to have someone to talk to.

I hope this helps.


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9:49 am

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Anonymous: What's the chance of pregnancy if he cummed in you by accident 2 days after ovulation and you took planb?

Hi anon,

A pregnancy can occur anytime sperm are deposited inside of the vagina or onto the vaginal opening. Taking Plan B One-Step emergency contraception reduces the chance of pregnancy, and the sooner you took it after the situation the more effective it will be. But there is still some risk that a pregnancy could occur. The most accurate time to take a pregnancy test is the day before a period is due or if it is late. You can either take one at home or in a local clinic.

The situation you described is also high risk for the transmission of STDs. You and your partner may want to visit a local clinic to be tested. In the future, you and your partner might want to consider using a condom. Condoms are not only 98-percent effective at preventing pregnancy with perfect use but they are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs. Learn how to use a condom.

I hope this helps.


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