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Hi. When I have sex, I can never reach climax without stimulation to my clitoris. Is this normal? Thanks

Thu, 23 May 2013 15:12:00 -0400

Hi anon,

This is absolutely normal. Lots of people can only achieve orgasm through stimulating the clitoris and this is actually really common. Lots of people can also orgasm from vaginal penetration alone, which is also normal, but it’s not as common as media, pop culture or porn might make you believe.

I hope this helps!

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Thu, 23 May 2013 14:30:34 -0400

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Hi! So I never really masturbated when I was little, and now that I'm older I just never felt the need to. Well then I had sex and it was great but my boyfriend and I broke up. I have urges now and I try to masturbate but I can't get myself off. Is this normal? or fixable?

Thu, 23 May 2013 08:25:00 -0400

Hi anon,

This is completely normal. It can take time to figure out how you specifically like to masturbate, what works and doesn’t for you, and what does and doesn’t feel good for you. It may take a while for you to figure out what feels good and to have an orgasm on your own. It may not happen the first or second time, and it may take more than a few minutes. Just know it may take some time.

You may want to find some private time and explore your body, touch yourself and figure what feels good and what you like. Check out this FAQ on masturbation for more information.

I hope this helps!

Is squirting real?

Thu, 23 May 2013 08:19:00 -0400

Hi anon,

Yup! Some females can ejaculate if their G-spot is stimulated. The G-spot is a place inside of the vagina that is towards the front and is about 2-3 inches inside. Stimulating this area with a penis or fingers feels good for some people and can, in some people, result in spraying liquid from the urethra. This liquid is not urine.

I hope this helps!

Is there a way to tell if I was born intersex? without checking medical records, I mean.

Thu, 23 May 2013 08:14:00 -0400

Hi anon,

Being intersex can be very different for each person who is intersex. Some people who are intersex may be able to know from what their genitals look like, or if they are developing differently during puberty. But, some people don’t find out if they are intersex until much later in life because their chromosomes may be different than XX or XY but physically they look male or female, in this case the only way to find out would be with chromosomal testing.

This is all to say that someone may be able to tell from looking at themselves or their medical records, or they may not. Sometimes medical records won’t state it either especially if their intersex identity comes in the form of chromosomal differences which typically is not diagnosed at birth or younger.

If you think you might be intersex, you may want to speak with your parents and visit a medical professional who specializes in working with intersex people or teens specifically.

I hope this helps.

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Wed, 22 May 2013 14:13:28 -0400

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i had sex for the first time with my boyfriend last night. hes pretty big and it hurt a little but not much. he said he was only semi hard during the whole experience and he didnt end up ejaculating at all during the sex. he was wearing a condom, im on birth control for over a year now as well. im having these weird feelings in my pelvic region its almost as if something is either in there (which there isnt) or twitchy/pressurey? is this normal? should i be concerned?

Tue, 21 May 2013 08:45:00 -0400

Hi anon,

Anytime your body feels “weird” or different than normal, it is best to see a health care provider, like a doctor. We aren’t doctors and even if we were, we can’t diagnose you over the internet. Nothing may be wrong, but if aren’t feeling right it’s best to talk to someone about it. You may want to visit a local clinic near you.

You can find a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you here.

I hope this helps.

is the female g-spot as hard to find as people say it is? is it remotely hard to locate?

Tue, 21 May 2013 08:38:00 -0400

Hi anon,

The G-spot is a spot inside of the vagina that may feel good to be touched for some people. It is located in the front of the vagina and is about two inches up from the opening. It can be identified by the uneven texture of the tissue. You can find out more about its location here. It is fairly easy to locate if someone knows what to look or feel for, but not everyone likes to have their G-spot stimulated, and for some people it doesn’t feel as good as other kinds of touch or stimulation.

I hope this helps.

Im 16 and i live in california. if i were to schedule an appointment at planned parenthood to have an abortion, would i need to show them my medical insurance? I'm afraid they will notify my parents or put it on the medical insurance. Is there any other way they could do it without the medical insurance?

Tue, 21 May 2013 08:31:00 -0400

Hi anon,

Planned Parenthood allows you to pay out of pocket and not use insurance if that’s what you’d like to do. In California, minors are not required to notify their parents or get their parents permission if they want an abortion.

You can call your local Planned Parenthood to see how much an abortion will cost, it is usually several hundred dollars. They may have financial assistance available if you need it. Find out more about your right to abortion in California here.

I hope this helps.

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if you masturbate and then go to the doctor can they tell?

Wed, 15 May 2013 08:44:00 -0400

Hi anon,

Nope, a doctor cannot tell by looking at you or looking at a person’s genitals whether they have masturbated. They also cannot tell if you’ve ever had sex or engaged in sexual behaviors with a partner.

I hope this helps!

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Hi I recently took a ept pregnancy test. The control window was a dark blue color. But the test showed a very faint negative. (It was a -/+ test not the line ones). Since it was so faint could that mean something? Like the test was defective?

Mon, 13 May 2013 08:19:00 -0400

Hi anon,

You might want to call the help line for ept and they may be able to tell you if that test was defective or expired.

In the meantime, since you didn’t get a good reading, you may want to take another pregnancy test either at home or in a local clinic. You can find a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you here.

I hope this helps.

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is it normal for a girl to cramp in her butt area after she orgasms?

Fri, 10 May 2013 08:12:00 -0400

Hi anon,

When someone is about to have an orgasm their body tenses up and the muscle get stiff, like when you flex. This can sometimes lead to a cramp. It can happen in the foot, the leg or the butt. It’s normal for this to happen occasionally especially during times when your muscles are tense. This can happen during an orgasm or during exercise for instance.

However, if this happens all the time you may want to see a doctor or health care provider. Cramping in muscles is mostly normal but it can be a sign of a vitamin or mineral deficiency or other health issues so seeing a medical professional can’t hurt.

I hope this helps!

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Thu, 09 May 2013 15:01:00 -0400

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Also just to add the flow was light- medium. That's why I'm debating if I should take the test or not. I heard of ppl being pregnant nd having a period but isn't it more like spotting nd not an actual period? (2/2)

Thu, 09 May 2013 08:47:00 -0400

Hi anon,

It looks like we only have the second half of this message not 1/2. So I can’t answer it completely, but I can say that having a period means someone is not pregnant. Someone cannot have their period and be pregnant. Some people may spot during pregnancy, but that is actually usually a sign that someone may have a miscarriage or lose the pregnancy. It’s not something that happens a lot.

If you are concerned about being pregnant, you can take a pregnancy test to find out for sure if you are pregnant. You can either take one at home or in a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you. Find a clinic here.

I hope this helps.

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