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February 27, 2014 9:58 am

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Anonymous: Is there a condom you can recommend that he will enjoy and be able to stay hard in?

Hi anon,

Check out this FAQ on finding a condom that works for you and your partner!

I hope this helps!


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9:57 am

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Anonymous: My boyfriend hates to wear condoms. After he cums for the first time, later we try to have sex again but he gets soft and I know it's not because he came earlier because before when we didn't use condoms he had no trouble staying up. What can we do?

Hi anon,

Sometimes it can be difficult for guys to have an erection right after ejaculating. Even if he was able to get an erection again right away in the past his body may have changed. For a lot of guys they need time, some a few minutes others a few hours before they can have another erection after ejaculating. What your partner is experiencing is normal and not necessarily because of using condoms.

Condoms are great because they are 98-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs.

If you or your partner aren’t happy with the condoms you are using you might want to try different brands and test them out until you find one that works well for you two.

I hope this helps!


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February 20, 2014 8:34 am

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Anonymous: Hi, I have a question about pregnancy. Around the 4th of December last year, I had sex with a guy (he wore a condom and I'm on birth control), and it also happened to be the same day my period ended. It's been roughly 11 weeks since and I haven't had my period. I'm not showing any symptoms of being pregnant whatsoever, and today I noticed a small amount of blood in my underwear. Could I be pregnant? I have no way of taking a test without telling my mother and I don't want to worry her yet.

Hi anon,

The situation you described is low-risk for pregnancy since condoms are 98-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs. Hormonal birth control is 99-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy.

However, while the risk is low there is still a small risk, and usually the first and most common sign of pregnancy is missing a period. The only way to know for sure if you are pregnant is to take a pregnancy test. You can either take one at home or in a local clinic. Find a low-cost and confidential clinic near you.

Periods can be late or skipped for many reasons other than pregnancy. Such as stress, weight gain or loss, or a change in eating, sleeping or exercising habits. But the only way to know for sure if you are pregnant or not is to take a test.

I hope this helps.


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February 18, 2014 2:29 pm

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Anonymous: Hi, i'm on BC. Ortho lo, which i take daily. I had sex feb 1st, and i got my period on the 14th, which lasted the usual 4 days.. (Was 5 before the pill) but for some reason i feel like it was a bit lighter ? idk for sure, not like it stopped earlier either. I don't know if im thinking too hard and its actually normal. my boyfriend does not finish off inside me either.

Hi anon,

There was a low-risk for pregnancy from the situation you described. The pill is 99-percent effective at preventing pregnancy with perfect use.

One of the side effects that can happen with hormonal birth control is a shorter and lighter period. Having a period means someone is not pregnant.

If you are concerned about pregnancy, you can take a pregnancy test. The most accurate time to take a pregnancy test is either the day before a period is due or if it is late. You can either take a pregnancy test at home or in a local clinic. Find a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you.

While the situation you described is low-risk for pregnancy. It is high risk for the transmission of STDs. You and your partner may want to consider being tested for STDs together at a local clinic.

In the future, you and your partner may want to consider using a condom. They protect against STDs and can back up your hormonal birth control. Condoms are 98-percent effective at preventing pregnancy with perfect use and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs. Learn how to use a condom.

I hope this helps!


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February 4, 2014 8:19 am

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Anonymous: Are there other kinds of condoms and how to you know the size of a condom to use

Hi anon,

Check out this FAQ from our website on the different kinds of condoms there are!

In terms of size, most regular condoms fit most penises. Condoms are very elastic and stretch to fit average sized penises. The average adult penis is 5-7 inches in length. Rarely, someone will require an extra-large condom. Trying on condoms before someone engages in sexual behaviors with a partner is a good way to figure out what condom works best for them.

I hope this helps.


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January 30, 2014 1:29 pm

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December 24, 2013 9:38 am
Have a very happy and safe holiday everyone!

Have a very happy and safe holiday everyone!


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December 17, 2013 2:31 pm

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Anonymous: I'm kind of nervous about having sex with my boyfriend for fear that something can happen. In my state, we are both old enough to consent and it's legal. I guess my questions were just that.. he's only been with one other person before, both of them were virgins. It was a one time thing. I'm a virgin now, but is there any way that a disease can still be caught? Also, even though we would use a condom, what are the chances of something going wrong or happening? -- thankss -- Ali

Hi Ali,

Sexually transmitted diseases or STDs can be transmitted through oral, anal or vaginal sex, and some STDs like herpes and HPV can be transmitted through genital-to-genital skin contact. STDs can also be picked up by infants either during birth or, with HIV, during breastfeeding.

The only way to know for sure if someone has an STD is to be tested. So if you are concerned about STDs you and your partner may want to go to a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you. You can find a clinic near you here.

Condoms are 98-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs. But, if preventing pregnancy is also a concern for you—not just preventing STDs—then you may want to ask the local clinic or consider using a form of birth control to back up the condom when it comes to pregnancy. Only condoms prevent the transmission of STDs though.

Make sure you know all the steps to using a condom. Learn more about birth control. And this FAQ on deciding to have sex may be helpful for you as well.

I hope this helps.


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November 19, 2013 2:18 pm

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November 11, 2013 3:01 pm
Doge knows about condoms & safer sex. Reblog if you know how to use a condom, too!

Doge knows about condoms & safer sex. Reblog if you know how to use a condom, too!

(Source: sexetc.org)


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November 5, 2013 8:19 am

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Anonymous: hi, i took anti biotics to treat a uti. finished yesterday, sunday.. im also on the pill.. how long do you think for it to become effective again? I plan on having sex maybe friday/saturday.

Hi anon,

That depends on your pill and the type of birth control you are on. You should talk to the doctor or health care provider who prescribed your birth control pill.

You can always use a back-up method of birth control though. Hormonal birth control doesn’t prevent the transmission of STDs, so it’s a good idea to use a condom along with hormonal birth control. Condoms are 99-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs. Learn how to use a condom here.

I hope this helps.


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October 31, 2013 12:01 pm

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