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December 24, 2013 9:38 am
Have a very happy and safe holiday everyone!

Have a very happy and safe holiday everyone!


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December 17, 2013 2:31 pm

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Anonymous: I'm kind of nervous about having sex with my boyfriend for fear that something can happen. In my state, we are both old enough to consent and it's legal. I guess my questions were just that.. he's only been with one other person before, both of them were virgins. It was a one time thing. I'm a virgin now, but is there any way that a disease can still be caught? Also, even though we would use a condom, what are the chances of something going wrong or happening? -- thankss -- Ali

Hi Ali,

Sexually transmitted diseases or STDs can be transmitted through oral, anal or vaginal sex, and some STDs like herpes and HPV can be transmitted through genital-to-genital skin contact. STDs can also be picked up by infants either during birth or, with HIV, during breastfeeding.

The only way to know for sure if someone has an STD is to be tested. So if you are concerned about STDs you and your partner may want to go to a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you. You can find a clinic near you here.

Condoms are 98-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs. But, if preventing pregnancy is also a concern for you—not just preventing STDs—then you may want to ask the local clinic or consider using a form of birth control to back up the condom when it comes to pregnancy. Only condoms prevent the transmission of STDs though.

Make sure you know all the steps to using a condom. Learn more about birth control. And this FAQ on deciding to have sex may be helpful for you as well.

I hope this helps.


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November 19, 2013 2:18 pm

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November 11, 2013 3:01 pm
Doge knows about condoms & safer sex. Reblog if you know how to use a condom, too!

Doge knows about condoms & safer sex. Reblog if you know how to use a condom, too!

(Source: sexetc.org)


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November 5, 2013 8:19 am

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Anonymous: hi, i took anti biotics to treat a uti. finished yesterday, sunday.. im also on the pill.. how long do you think for it to become effective again? I plan on having sex maybe friday/saturday.

Hi anon,

That depends on your pill and the type of birth control you are on. You should talk to the doctor or health care provider who prescribed your birth control pill.

You can always use a back-up method of birth control though. Hormonal birth control doesn’t prevent the transmission of STDs, so it’s a good idea to use a condom along with hormonal birth control. Condoms are 99-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs. Learn how to use a condom here.

I hope this helps.


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October 31, 2013 12:01 pm

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October 30, 2013 8:15 am

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Anonymous: I've heard before how masturbating is healthy, and I've tried it multiple times, and cannot seem to orgasm. Also, my boyfriend has tried (not through legit intercourse, but by oral and fingering because I'm still a little less than a year underage) and still nothing. Is there something wrong with me?

Hi anon,

Masturbating is normal and healthy, as is not masturbating. Some people enjoy masturbation and others do not. Masturbating can be done by stroking or rubbing the clitoris and vulva and possibly inserting fingers into the vagina in females, but every one is different and likes and enjoys different things. You just may not have figured out what you like yet. It can take time to figure it out.

On another note, oral sex can transmit STDs so you and your partner may want to consider using condoms and/or dental dams when engaging in oral sex. Learn about dental dams here and how to use condoms here.

Also, you don’t say how old your partner is, and I’m not sure what you mean by underage, but you may want to check out the laws relating to consent in your state. You can check out Sex in the States here.

I hope this helps.


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October 24, 2013 3:00 pm

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October 2, 2013 8:50 am

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Anonymous: Hi, I was on Tri Sprintec since June because my insurance expired and couldn't get Ortho Tri Cyclen Lo like my doc prescribed.. It is now September and i'm on Ortho Tri. now (new insurance) will it be ok to have sex, say this friday/sat?

Hi anon,

That really depends on how long you’ve been taking your birth control pill, what dosage it is and where you on in your menstrual cycle. You should talk to the health care provider who prescribed your birth control pill to see if the pill is fully effective yet.

But, if you do want to have sex, you can always use a backup method, like a condom. Hormonal birth control is great, but it doesn’t protect against STDs. Condoms are 98-percent effective at preventing pregnancy with perfect use and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs.

Learn how to use a condom.

I hope this helps!


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September 16, 2013 2:00 pm
It’s Global Female Condom Day! Reblog and raise awareness of the female condom—an unsung sexual health heroine!
Learn more about female condoms and how they work.

It’s Global Female Condom Day! Reblog and raise awareness of the female condom—an unsung sexual health heroine!

Learn more about female condoms and how they work.

(Source: genderhealth.org)


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1:45 pm

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Anonymous: So i missed my birth control twice last week (had to double up twice). Has it lost a lot of its effectiveness? How long will it take my body to be back at full effectiveness?

Hi anon,

Each birth control pill only has enough hormones to prevent ovulation and prevent pregnancy for 24 hours, hence why someone has to take it every day at the same time every day.

The answer to your question though really depends on when in your cycle you missed the pills and what specific birth control and dose you are on. Only a doctor can tell you for sure. In the meantime, you might want to use a back-up method of birth control, such as condoms.

Condoms are 98-percent effective at preventing pregnancy and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs. Learn how to use a condom here.

I hope this helps!


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August 26, 2013 2:01 pm
What happens when a college doesn’t provide condoms or birth control, but you still want to hook up and be safe? It means you’re in charge of your own sexual health!

What happens when a college doesn’t provide condoms or birth control, but you still want to hook up and be safe? It means you’re in charge of your own sexual health!

(Source: sexetc.org)


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August 13, 2013 8:31 am

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Anonymous: My girlfriend and I were using the pull-out method for maybe a week about 2 1/2-3 weeks ago and she missed her period about 2 weeks ago. That being said, she's had a history of irregular periods (she's tiny and on medication), some even being as late as 3 weeks. Since then, her breasts are not sore, she hasn't been having any morning sickness, and she hasn't had any other early signs of pregnancy. Could she still be pregnant though? Oh and she's on Prozac, don't know if that factors in?

Hi anon,

The withdrawal method is about 96 percent effective if used perfectly and 76 percent effective with typical use. Typical use accounts for “real world” errors, such as not pulling out in time, or ejaculating on the vulva. The other thing is that the withdrawal method doesn’t prevent pre-cum or pre-ejaculate from getting into the vagina or on the vulva. In some males their pre-ejaculate contains sperm, and a pregnancy can occur anytime sperm are deposited in the vagina or onto the vaginal opening.

There is a risk for pregnancy, and a very high risk for the transmission of STDs in the situation you described.

Missing a period is one of the first signs of pregnancy. Your partner may want to consider taking a pregnancy test. She can either take one at home or in a local clinic. You can find a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you here.

You may want to consider visiting the clinic with your partner so you can both be tested for STDs, as well. In the future, you and your partner may want to consider using condoms. Condoms are 98-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs. Learn how to use a condom here.

I hope this helps.


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July 30, 2013 8:43 am

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Anonymous: I was supposed to start my new pack of birth control pills last night at 11pm (I take Progestin/estrogen mononessa) but I forgot and did not take them until 7:30am this morning. Will this change how effective they are for the rest of the month?

Hi anon,

They will return to full effectiveness after a couple of days, but in the meantime you may want to use a back up method of birth control, such as a condom. Condoms are 98-percent effective with perfects use at preventing pregnancy and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs. Learn how to use a condom.

I hope this helps.


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July 29, 2013 12:01 pm

It’s always good to promote condoms and safer sex. But when it comes to getting lucky, don’t leave your health to luck.

Would you use these Daft Punk “Get Lucky” condoms?

(Source: sexetc.org)


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