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July 2, 2014 8:40 am

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Anonymous: What are the chances of getting pregnant using the fertility awareness method with condoms?

Hi anon,

Fertility awareness methods are about 76-percent effective at preventing pregnancy. Condoms are 98-percent effective at preventing pregnancy with perfect use and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs. Used together there is a high-level of protection for both pregnancy and STDs.

In general though, fertility awareness methods usually aren’t the most effective ones for teens. Teens generally have more variations in their cycles, especially when they first get their period so it can be hard to track when someone is ovulating and it can be a time consuming method. So using condoms is a great idea in combination with a fertility awareness method.

I hope this helps.


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June 30, 2014 2:02 pm

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April 21, 2014 1:03 pm

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Anonymous: My boyfriend and I made out and dry humped but the I aslo wanked him & gave him a blowjob & he rubbed my vagina through my underwear but now my period is late. I'm always regular and have never been more than a day late. I'm really worried

Hi anon,

There is no risk for pregnancy from the situation you described. A pregnancy can only occur if sperm are deposited inside of the vagina or on the vaginal opening and sperm can’t get through fabric.

Periods can be late for lots of reasons, stress, change in sleeping, eating or exercise habits or if you have gained or lost weight. If you are concerned you may be pregnant though you can take a pregnancy test. The most accurate time to take a pregnancy test is the day before a period is due or if your period is late. You can either take one at home or in a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you. Find a clinic.

While there is no risk for pregnancy, there is a high risk for the transmission for STDs. You and your partner may want to consider going to the clinic to be tested for STDs. And in the future you may want to consider using a condom when performing oral sex on him. Condoms are not only 98-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy but they are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs. Learn how to use a condom.

I hope this helps.


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April 7, 2014 9:47 am

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Anonymous: I want to have sex with my boyfriend, but I'm absolutely terrified of getting pregnant. I know how to use a condom and I absolutely will, but when is a woman least likely to get pregnant? I want to my first time to be as stress free as possible.

Hi anon,

There is no safe time during the menstrual cycle to have sex. There are days where is it less likely, but still possible. If you want to prevent pregnancy, using a condom is great. Condoms are 98-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy and they are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs.

You might also want to look into hormonal birth control to make pregnancy even less likely. Learn about hormonal birth control here.

You can also learn how to use a fertility awareness method where you can track your menstrual cycle and then only engage in sexual behaviors on the days that you are least likely to become pregnant. This method can be a bit difficult for teens though, since their menstrual cycle can be more irregular. You can learn more about this method here.

I hope this helps.


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March 27, 2014 3:00 pm

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March 21, 2014 8:30 am

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Anonymous: If I, a female, have sex with a male and he doesn't come, what STD's can I get? We usually don't use condoms. Are there any STD's that I am less likely to get if he doesn't come inside of me?

Hi anon,

There is a high risk for the transmission of STDs from the situation you described. You are still are risk for the transmission of all STDs because pre-ejaculatory fluids can transmit STDs. So while he does not ejaculate there is still a risk. Also, some STDs, such as herpes and some strains of HPV can be passed through genital skin-to-skin contact.

There is also a risk for pregnancy from the situation you describe. While pulling out is better than no method at preventing pregnancy, it isn’t as effective as, say using a condom or another form of birth control.

In the future, you are your partner may want to consider using condoms. They are 98-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs. Learn how to use a condom here.

Also, you and your partner may want to consider being tested at a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you. Find a clinic here.

I hope this helps.


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March 17, 2014 10:50 am
Happy St. Patrick’s Day! Never leave your sexual health to luck. Always use a condom!

Happy St. Patrick’s Day! Never leave your sexual health to luck. Always use a condom!


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March 7, 2014 1:13 pm

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Anonymous: Hello! So I recently switched from Trinessa combination birth control to Nuvaring. It said that if I was switching from one to the other there was no need to use back up birth control methods for any period of time. However, my boyfriend and I had sex, without a condom, two times within the first 10 days of me switching. I am worried I may be pregnant and want to know what the chance of pregnancy is or if I am just reading into my symptoms (headaches, etc.)?

Hi anon,

If the health care provider who prescribed your birth control said it was OK and if you stopped using the pill and started using the ring immediately (meaning there wasn’t a day, a few days or weeks between the two) then generally the risk for pregnancy would be pretty low.

Headaches can be a sign of a a period coming, a side effect of hormonal birth control and lots of other things, but they usually aren’t a main symptom of pregnancy. The biggest sign of pregnancy is missing a period.

You’ll have to wait until your next period is due or if it is late to take a pregnancy test, since this is when it will be most accurate.

While the risk for pregnancy is low, there is a high risk of the transmission of STDs from the situation you described. Hormonal birth control is 99-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy, but doesn’t protect against STDs. You and your partner might want to consider getting tested at a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic.

And, in the future, you and your partner might want to consider using a condom. Condoms are great because they can back up hormonal birth control—they are 98-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy—and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs. Learn how to use a condom here.

I hope this helps!


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February 27, 2014 9:58 am

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Anonymous: Is there a condom you can recommend that he will enjoy and be able to stay hard in?

Hi anon,

Check out this FAQ on finding a condom that works for you and your partner!

I hope this helps!


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9:57 am

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Anonymous: My boyfriend hates to wear condoms. After he cums for the first time, later we try to have sex again but he gets soft and I know it's not because he came earlier because before when we didn't use condoms he had no trouble staying up. What can we do?

Hi anon,

Sometimes it can be difficult for guys to have an erection right after ejaculating. Even if he was able to get an erection again right away in the past his body may have changed. For a lot of guys they need time, some a few minutes others a few hours before they can have another erection after ejaculating. What your partner is experiencing is normal and not necessarily because of using condoms.

Condoms are great because they are 98-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs.

If you or your partner aren’t happy with the condoms you are using you might want to try different brands and test them out until you find one that works well for you two.

I hope this helps!


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February 20, 2014 8:34 am

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Anonymous: Hi, I have a question about pregnancy. Around the 4th of December last year, I had sex with a guy (he wore a condom and I'm on birth control), and it also happened to be the same day my period ended. It's been roughly 11 weeks since and I haven't had my period. I'm not showing any symptoms of being pregnant whatsoever, and today I noticed a small amount of blood in my underwear. Could I be pregnant? I have no way of taking a test without telling my mother and I don't want to worry her yet.

Hi anon,

The situation you described is low-risk for pregnancy since condoms are 98-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs. Hormonal birth control is 99-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy.

However, while the risk is low there is still a small risk, and usually the first and most common sign of pregnancy is missing a period. The only way to know for sure if you are pregnant is to take a pregnancy test. You can either take one at home or in a local clinic. Find a low-cost and confidential clinic near you.

Periods can be late or skipped for many reasons other than pregnancy. Such as stress, weight gain or loss, or a change in eating, sleeping or exercising habits. But the only way to know for sure if you are pregnant or not is to take a test.

I hope this helps.


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February 18, 2014 2:29 pm

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Anonymous: Hi, i'm on BC. Ortho lo, which i take daily. I had sex feb 1st, and i got my period on the 14th, which lasted the usual 4 days.. (Was 5 before the pill) but for some reason i feel like it was a bit lighter ? idk for sure, not like it stopped earlier either. I don't know if im thinking too hard and its actually normal. my boyfriend does not finish off inside me either.

Hi anon,

There was a low-risk for pregnancy from the situation you described. The pill is 99-percent effective at preventing pregnancy with perfect use.

One of the side effects that can happen with hormonal birth control is a shorter and lighter period. Having a period means someone is not pregnant.

If you are concerned about pregnancy, you can take a pregnancy test. The most accurate time to take a pregnancy test is either the day before a period is due or if it is late. You can either take a pregnancy test at home or in a local clinic. Find a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you.

While the situation you described is low-risk for pregnancy. It is high risk for the transmission of STDs. You and your partner may want to consider being tested for STDs together at a local clinic.

In the future, you and your partner may want to consider using a condom. They protect against STDs and can back up your hormonal birth control. Condoms are 98-percent effective at preventing pregnancy with perfect use and are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs. Learn how to use a condom.

I hope this helps!


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