Anonymous: I've identified as a lesbian for the last few years, but recently I've discovered that I have a sexual attraction to a few male celebrities. Is this normal? Does this mean I'm bisexual? Should I tell my girlfriend of a year and a half? Thank you.
It is normal to find people attractive for any number of reasons, definitely, but you are the only one who can determine whether the way you feel about those male celebrities means you are bisexual.
If you feel you should share these feelings with your girlfriend and discuss them with her, it may help you to talk this through with her. If you’re concerned this information may hurt her and want to talk it through with another trusted friend or adult first, that may be another good option.
I hope this helps!
Anonymous: How do you come out to your parents? I'm a lesbian and me and my girl friend are tired of hiding :(
This is a pretty common question. It’s easy to understand that you don’t want to hide an important part of your life and an important relationship from your parents anymore. It’s also probably a kind of scary thing to contemplate doing depending on your relationship with your parents.
We have an awesome Communication Tool on our website which covers how to talk to different people in your life about a different topics. We have one just on coming out to your parents. You can find that specifically here.
There you’ll find suggestions for what you might say, but since you know your parents best you’ll want to personalize it a bit. You’ll probably want to talk to them alone when you have some time, not in a busy place per se or when you’re running out the door late for school or work. They may be very accepting and supportive right away, or they may need some time to process. Remember this doesn’t have to be a one time conversation, but it can be ongoing.
One thing to remember for everyone though is that you never have to come out if you fear for your health or safety. If someone felt like their parents would kick them out of the house or hurt them emotionally or physically we would recommend not coming out until perhaps that person is able to move out and support themselves. Not being out is tough—no doubt about that—but we’d never want someone to risk their health and safety either.
I hope this helps and good luck coming out to your parents!