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July 21, 2014 11:17 am

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Anonymous: Hi! I have a friend that have 17 years old. She have had some encounters with her boyfriend where se makes oral sex and her boyfriend touches her… ok you know jajaja The thing is that I wan't to know what you think about this… Its it wrong? She must stop? She is not ready to have sex because she is scared to get pregnant! What do her parents would think about this? I don't know I wan't to help her and that she feels safe and secure about her decisions. Pleaseee help!

Hi anon,

If your friend enjoys having oral sex with her partner that is totally normal. It is up to her to decide what she is and is not OK with sexually. Lots of teens have different values about sex from their parents. Her parents may not approve, but it is her decision what to do sexually. It’s totally normal that she is OK with and ready to engaging in oral sex, but not want to have vaginal sex because she wants to avoid pregnancy. Lots of people engage in different sexual behaviors at different times.

It sounds like you have different values about sex than your friend and you don’t think she should be having oral sex or engaging in sexual behaviors with her partner. It’s normal to be concerned for your friend, but if she is making decisions that are good for her, her partner isn’t pressuring her and she is OK with what she is doing then the best thing you can do is support her and not judge her.

If when your friend tells you about having oral sex and engaging in sexual behaviors with her partner makes you uncomfortable though, you have every right to ask her to not discuss that with you.

I hope this helps.


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June 25, 2014 2:32 pm

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Anonymous: So I went to third base with my boyfriend just recently, and it felt really really good, dare I say better than when I make myself orgasm... But I didn't orgasm!! He seemed a bit disappointed, not in me, but kind of upset he couldn't make me orgasm.

Hi anon,

I’m not quite sure what your question is but I’ll try to respond as best as possible.

For all our followers: some people use a baseball analogy to talk about sexual behaviors. In the analogy “third base” can refer to manual or oral stimulation of the genitals by a partner. We try to stay away from analogies though because it’s less confusing, and because it can mean such different things to different people!

It’s normal for it to be difficult for a person to bring their partner to orgasm, especially the first time. It may be easier the more you two engage in this behavior. But, as you said, you really enjoyed it, and that’s great. Because orgasm doesn’t always have to be the “goal” or “point” of engaging in sexual behaviors with a partner. You and your partner may find this FAQ useful.

Also, if for you oral sex is “third base” you and your partner should check out this FAQ on oral sex, STDs and practicing safer sex.

You and he may also want to get tested. Find a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you.

I hope this helps!


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April 21, 2014 1:03 pm

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Anonymous: My boyfriend and I made out and dry humped but the I aslo wanked him & gave him a blowjob & he rubbed my vagina through my underwear but now my period is late. I'm always regular and have never been more than a day late. I'm really worried

Hi anon,

There is no risk for pregnancy from the situation you described. A pregnancy can only occur if sperm are deposited inside of the vagina or on the vaginal opening and sperm can’t get through fabric.

Periods can be late for lots of reasons, stress, change in sleeping, eating or exercise habits or if you have gained or lost weight. If you are concerned you may be pregnant though you can take a pregnancy test. The most accurate time to take a pregnancy test is the day before a period is due or if your period is late. You can either take one at home or in a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you. Find a clinic.

While there is no risk for pregnancy, there is a high risk for the transmission for STDs. You and your partner may want to consider going to the clinic to be tested for STDs. And in the future you may want to consider using a condom when performing oral sex on him. Condoms are not only 98-percent effective with perfect use at preventing pregnancy but they are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs. Learn how to use a condom.

I hope this helps.


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March 25, 2014 8:20 am

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Anonymous: Hi! Can you tell me if there any official statistics of transmission something during oral sex? Thanks!

Hi anon,

If you want statistics on the rates of infection for STDs we’d recommend checking out this page on the Centers for Disease Control’s website.

It important to know though that all STDs can be passed through oral sex. Vaginal fluids, semen and pre-ejcaculate are fluids that can transmit an STD and getting those fluids in the mouth would be a way for an STD to be transmitted or coming into oral contact with genital skin of someone who has HPV or herpes could transmit the virus as well.

I hope this helps.


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March 11, 2014 9:16 am

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Anonymous: I constantly have a creamy white discharge... not very visible, but if i scrape my finger against the inside of my vulva, i see it against my nail bed. I am a plus sized girl, so I don’t know if it’s happening because my vulva/private area is big... or what the deal is? Also, when I achieve orgasm, it’s been white lately. Do you think this is a smegma type of thing? It does not itch, it just makes me self conscious for getting oral. thanks for the help

Hi anon,

It’s completely normal to have discharge and to have the white creamy substance inside of the labia. This is called smegma and it’s totally normal for everyone to have no matter their sex or size. Lots of things about our bodies can make us self-conscious, but perhaps just knowing it’s normal for everyone—even your sexual partners—to have smegma might make you feel a bit better.

Also, oral sex can transmit STDs, so using a dental dam might make you feel less self-conscious and it’s a way to practice safer sex. Learn more about safer sex during oral sex here.

I hope this helps!


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March 7, 2014 8:57 am

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Anonymous: Hey all! So I'm girl and I'm about to have sex with another girl. Can you tell if I can get an STD orally and if yes how can I make sure things are safe? Thanks! :)

Hi anon,

Yes, you can get an STD from oral sex. Check out the FAQ for more information on STDs and oral sex and how to prevent the transmission of STDs during oral sex.

You and your partner might want to go and get tested for STDs together before you engage in any sexual behaviors. You can find a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you here. Also, you and your partner might want to consider using dental dams for oral sex.

I hope this helps!


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March 6, 2014 8:56 am

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Anonymous: Can you get an STD from swallowing?

Hi anon,

Yes, someone can contract an STD from oral sex. Semen and vaginal fluids can transmit STDs and getting those fluids in someone’s mouth or another mucous membrane can transmit an STD.

Using a condom for performing oral sex on a penis or a dental dam for performing oral sex on a vulva is a great way to prevent the spread of STDs through oral sex.

I hope this helps!


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February 25, 2014 8:26 am

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Anonymous: Is it normal to really like giving oral to your bf? I sometimes cant wait to perform oral sex on him. I love when he does it to me and we do it often to each other but I like the feel of his erection when performing oral on him, is that weird? And when it comes to a guys penis, is the penis the most erogenous part on a guy or is it his also their balls because my bf really loves when I touch him their? Whats the part between the balls and their anus because that seems to be a good area to?

Hi anon,

Lots of people enjoy giving their partner pleasure through sexual behaviors this is completely normal. Lots of guys also enjoy having their testicles touched some enjoy it more and some enjoy it less than their penis being touched.

The patch of skin between the testicles and the anus (or between the vaginal opening and the anus) is called the perineum. Some people like to have this area of their body stimulated during sexual behaviors others don’t enjoy it, but both are normal.

I hope this helps.


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December 9, 2013 8:30 am

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Anonymous: This is kinda urgent, but i have a cut on the inside of my lip and i am seeing my boyfriend, is it okay to kiss him and give him a blowjob? xx

Hi anon,

Kissing with a cut in your mouth is pretty safe, but germs could get inside of the cut.

Oral sex can transmit STDs even if someone does not have a cut inside of their mouth. It’s a good idea to use a condom or a dental dam when performing oral sex on a partner. Learn more about how to use a condom here and why it’s important to practice safer oral sex here.

I hope this helps.


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November 4, 2013 8:34 am

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Anonymous: Hi. I Just need some Advice, On how do You give a Good Blow Job. I Want To Suprise my Boyfriend with One but i feel like I Might mess Up "/

Hi anon,

We don’t give “tips” on how to perform different sexual behaviors.

The best way to engage in a sexual behavior that is pleasurable for your partner is to ask them what they like! Talk to your partner and ask him what he likes and dislikes, and what he is and isn’t OK with. You might want to surprise your partner, but partners should talk about boundaries and should decide to engage in sexual behaviors together. So, you might want to talk to him and let him know that you would like to perform oral sex on him and then see how he feels about it.

Also, oral sex can transmit STDs. So you and your partner may want to consider being tested for STDs at a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near you. Find a clinic here.

You should also consider using a condom if you decide to perform oral sex on him Learn how to use a condom here.

I hope this helps!


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October 30, 2013 8:15 am

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Anonymous: I've heard before how masturbating is healthy, and I've tried it multiple times, and cannot seem to orgasm. Also, my boyfriend has tried (not through legit intercourse, but by oral and fingering because I'm still a little less than a year underage) and still nothing. Is there something wrong with me?

Hi anon,

Masturbating is normal and healthy, as is not masturbating. Some people enjoy masturbation and others do not. Masturbating can be done by stroking or rubbing the clitoris and vulva and possibly inserting fingers into the vagina in females, but every one is different and likes and enjoys different things. You just may not have figured out what you like yet. It can take time to figure it out.

On another note, oral sex can transmit STDs so you and your partner may want to consider using condoms and/or dental dams when engaging in oral sex. Learn about dental dams here and how to use condoms here.

Also, you don’t say how old your partner is, and I’m not sure what you mean by underage, but you may want to check out the laws relating to consent in your state. You can check out Sex in the States here.

I hope this helps.


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October 21, 2013 9:33 am

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Anonymous: i had a mouth infection (need root canal ) but my dentist gave me anti biotics... that ive finished. can something happen if i give my partner oral?

Hi anon,

In general, if someone has an infection in their mouth they should not be putting things into their mouths that may have germs. Oral sex can transmit STDs. While you can’t transmit your infection to your partner most likely, you still don’t want to expose them to your germs. Also, if they have an STD it could be transmitted to you through oral sex, and even just exposure to any germs from them could make your recovery from your infection harder.

You should talk to your dentist, but in general you may want to wait until you heal. Also, since oral sex can transmit STDs it’s smart to practice safer sex when performing oral sex. You can use a condom for oral sex performed on a penis or a dental dam for oral sex performed on a vulva.

I hope this helps.


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September 9, 2013 10:00 am

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Anonymous: if I gave my boyfriend a blowjob and then about 30 minutes later took a shower and accidentally spit near my area, would it be possible for me to have a pregnancy risk? can sperm survive in saliva like that?

Hi anon,

No sperm cannot survive in saliva and wouldn’t be able to survive in your mouth for a half hour. And a pregnancy can only occur if sperm are deposited directly on the vaginal opening or inside of the vagina. There is no risk for pregnancy from the situation you described.

However, there is a very high risk for the transmission of STDs. You may want to consider visiting a local free of low-cost and confidential clinic near you. You can find a clinic here.

In the future, you may want to consider using a condom when performing oral sex on your partner. Condoms are highly effective at preventing the transmission of STDs when used correctly. Learn how to use a condom here.

I hope this helps.


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June 18, 2013 8:47 am

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Anonymous: So my boyfriend and I were 69ing just 24 hours ago. He came in my mouth, I swallowed, we kissed, and he went back to using his tongue on me. How concerned should I be about being pregnant? Thanks.

Hi anon,

The saliva in your mouths would most likely kill any of the sperm left over after you swallowed the semen. Since you swallowed the semen, most of the semen would have ended up in your stomach where they can definitely not survive. So there is a very low to almost no risk in this situation.

However, there is a very high risk for the transmission of STDs in this situation. Oral sex can transmit STDs, as can swallowing semen. You and your partner may want to consider being tested at a local free or low-cost and confidential clinic near. Find a clinic here.

In the future, you and your partner may want to consider practicing safer sex during oral sex. You can find out more on how to do that, and how to use dental dams and condoms here.


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June 5, 2013 10:31 am

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